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Death perspective

October 31, 2017

As a child, when I couldn’t make up my mind about important decisions, I remember thinking: “What will I regret on my deathbed? Doing this or not doing this? Not going this way , or not going the other way?’ It never failed to help me decide.

I wonder now, as I shudder to think of being on a deathbed. Was it  a past life memory? Something I’d read? I don’t remember knowing anyone close to me at that time who was on a ‘deathbed.’

Later in life,  I read ‘The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying” by Sogyal Rinpoche.It resonated. Mightily.

“Death is a mirror in which the entire meaning of life is reflected.”
― Sogyal Rinpoche, The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying

I experienced deaths that shook and woke me up: the loss of Naniji, my first guru great-grandmother (she’d twinkle if she heard me calling her a guru!), a dear friends’ mother, just as we were studying for our board exams. A very dear uncle. And later, my parents. Each was experienced in a different way. And I realized something – we die with each person who dies, for something within us that was connected to them, dies. Yes, we live on. But both together – our dying and living on, allow us to glimpse our eternal self.

And I realized another thing, in which death is more like a passing, that as children grow, the mother misses the babe they were, the toddler, the teen, the youngster, the youth. As we grow, we keep dying to what we were. This helps me to enjoy every moment of every experience. To fully absorb it in such a way that I will not miss it when it passes, as it surely will. I find myself enjoying the next step, more when I know that it will pass.

How about you? What do you feel when you think of death?

Does this resonate? A healing look  Death is just a door or this for Day of the Dead: Honoring the Departed,

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