Skip to content

Can I make the thirsty horse drink?

November 28, 2010

There’s an old saying – You can take a horse to the water, but you cannot make him drink.

This focuses on the interaction between one who knows and can help, and one who doesn’t know but has asked for help. if we know the way, we can direct someone towards their goal, provide the tools to get them to find water by themselves,  or a helping hand to pull an outstretched hand out of a ditch. It’s about directing someone towards their goal, and then allowing them and ourselves the space in which the other chooses what he would like to do.

What if your hand is not taken by the one in need of help, the horse stays thirsty, the tools unused?

The responsibility stays with the one who is in need of help, to recogonize that help is needed, to seek it from the right source, to recognize it when given, and then to take the actions necessary to get the desired goal. The giver of help need neither force,  nor blame themselves if the other stays thirsty. On the other hand, if the horse does drink the water, the fallen one comes out of the ditch, it is time to bow in gratitude and move on. Both need to be in gratitude – the giver and receiver of help.

Another old saying said it best: When you receive a benefit, never forget it; when you confer one, never remember it.

The one with an outstretched hand, has to pull himself out when someone stretches out to them. The horse needs to drink water and perhaps whinny his thanks! The helper is gratified at being able to support without being a crutch.

Buddha is reported to have said – “No one saves us but ourselves. No one can and no one may. We ourselves must walk the path.

When we are in the healing dimension, we can see this as an interplay of light and energy. Providing help to someone who asks for it, without seeking gratitude or even a favorable result of our action, establishes a connection which does not hook the people involved. It is of light, not attachment. It allows energy to flow to each, and their energy does not get sapped.

The helper and the receiver have both accessed healing light channeled through the healer. Each bowing in gratitude, they are free to go their way, knowing that wonderful people exist in the world, feeling empowered  and humbled by their encounter with universal, loving light, often called Reiki.


Copyright © 2010 Meenakshi Suri Excerpt from The Genie Reveals, a novel in being written during NaNoWriMo]

4 Comments leave one →
  1. shira permalink
    November 28, 2010 2:30 pm

    — “No one saves us but ourselves. No one can and no one may. We ourselves must walk the path.” ……

    And yet we do many times stretch out and ask for support, or are asked by others. The interdependence of humans is deep and complicated, and deserves this kind of study and focus to be appreciated and enjoyed.

    Thanks for the thought.

    • November 28, 2010 4:21 pm

      Thanks for visiting, Shira. I’m smiling widely because one of the characters in the story is named Shira. For me, it’s a very unusual name, so your visiting here is quite amazing.

  2. November 29, 2010 1:04 am

    We can offer anything to anyone but they are the people to accept it and get the benefit out of it. I like this description. for the earlier post on 11/11, I commented but it disappeared.

    • November 30, 2010 10:16 pm

      Thanks Sanmugan. I read that Buddha said:
      “No one saves us but ourselves. No one can and no one may. We ourselves must walk the path.”

      The toughest part is when we look at children. A lot of faith is needed to know that they will find their inner guidance.

      [ I’ll see if the comment for 11/11 is hiding somewhere!]

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: